Being prepared is the Boy Scout motto. When you are in a recovery time period of life, the thoughts and focus have to not just be on recovery, but on preparation.
But preparation for what?
As I watched the Super Bowl LIV post-game interview of the champion Kansas City Chiefs head coach Andy Reid, his wife said he was calm the whole week or so leading up to the game. She said it was like any other week for him.
Andy Reid is, by any measure, a man of integrity and a high caliber person overall. I wasn’t surprised to hear his wife’s comments.
Recovery is a time we all need. It can be used for many good things. To restore. To reset one’s balance. To refocus. To redefine one’s self.
As I go through this period myself, I also think of preparation.
I’m old enough to know that the silent moments, the quiet times, don’t last long in life.
If one is merely resetting, redefining, and restoring, then it could be a false positive.
Restoring is simply returning to a status previously held.
Resetting is attempting something again, but this time with a different strategy, tactic, or approach.
Redefining is a change in positive direction.
In my case, I have goals that I have set for 2020. These are my “redefinitions”. I have some time and actions plans to restore myself, both in terms of mental health, physical health, fitness, spiritual renewal, and soul attention. These also include some significant career and financial improvements, as well as some learning and mastery goals.
I have resetting to attempt later, once I’m more down my path of restoration and redefinition. That resetting is a small hope laid in my heart, but one I’m not able to focus on currently, lest I lose sight of restoration and redefinition. But the time will come when I will attempt the reset.
(One could argue I have already “reset”, but that is just turning back a clock to zero; no forward progress is yet planned and so the needle simply sits there for now).
But in my thoughts about this of late, I keep thinking about the word preparation. I don’t know what will happen to me next in life. What will happen with my children. With those I love. How could I?
I certainly can’t be prepared for everything, such as Global Thermonuclear War (sorry, but ever since War Games, I just enjoy typing out that phrase slowly and muttering it under my breath slowly, just like Matthew Broderick).
But it is reasonable to assume some things when thinking about the next 25 years.
The point is to not simply restore, but to also build up. To grow in strength, resiliency, skills, formative habits, and of course, energy and bandwidth.
What will life throw at me next? It could be something wonderful, something amazing. Even good and great things take a lot of energy.
One must be prepared. For instance, having a child is a great blessing. But it’s not like life gets easier after a child; it generally gets a “bit more tricky”, as they say in England.
Preparation is a great motto.
I won’t be laying out my personal goals for 2020 here yet. However, all of them, if successful, will account for a wonderful 2021 and well beyond, even if other circumstances and people don’t wind up as I hope.
Intertwined in my thoughts about restoration, renewal, refocus, redefinition, and even resetting, is a deep thread of preparation underlying it. Maybe it’s the challenger inside me, but it’s hard to simply restore or relax alone. I do it – and it’s needed.
My mental purpose is strengthened, though, when I have longer term prepartory plans comingled with my renewal. I don’t just want to be the person I was 5 or 10 years ago at full strength again (although for the moment, that is a tempting goal). I want to be better. Much better. A better me is a win, even if other things don’t turn out well. Everyone around me benefits, and most importantly, I also benefit, and especially so if things don’t go as well.
“Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness – all of them due to the offenders’ ignorance of what is good or evil.”Marcus Aurelius
Well, I’ve rambled long enough. Another quote from Aurelius is sufficient to end here and begin offline.
“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.”Marcus Aurelius